When the past comes knocking.....

My thought for the day:

"When the past comes knocking.....keep walking.....they have nothing new to say."

I think it's amusing that it's taken me this long to be at this point but I have no interest in pursuing a friendship with this certain person ever again. When I think about my future I see no place for him. I didn't just close that chapter, I threw away the book. I have no interest in looking back, just moving forward. I wish you the best in life, but it won't be in mine. :)

What is your definition of cheating?

What is your definition of cheating?

My definition of cheating would be doing anything you wouldn't want your partner to see, hear, read or do themselves. Cheating doesn't always mean doing something physical. If you are writing something, or saying things you don't want your partner finding out about, it's cheating. Cheating starts with a thought, than is followed by an action. Once that thought forms, it's cheating. Acting upon the thought is worse than just thinking it but if you are even thinking it, it's time to figure out why. Again, if you can't do it in front of your partner, than you shouldn't be doing it. If you don't want your partner to be doing it, you shouldn't be doing it either. It''s a good rule to follow.

I've been through a lot in relationships and I've learned that cheating isn't always sleeping with someone else it starts as soon as you start hiding things. I don't ever want to be in that kind of head space again. I cheated a few years back and it devastated my partner, it took a looooong time for him to forgive me and for us to move past it. If you are ever feeling neglected, lonely, or any feeling that makes you want to seek attention anywhere else, remember this: You may find yourself in someone else's arms but in the end you will realize that it's not that person's attention you want, it's your partners and by that time, you've messed up two people's lives. Seeking attention and affection from someone other than your partner is nothing more than an ego boost for the time being. Relationships take a lot of effort, time & energy. You aren't always on the same "love language" as my therapist says. Every step back is one less step forward. Talk with your partner, get therapy if needed but never give up on the person you love. :)