It's really sad looking around at people I know and watching them throw their lives away in one way or another. They don't care what it does to the people who love them or even the little ones they chose to being into this world.
For example: If you chose to bring a kid or kids into this world, your life is no longer about you. It's your responsibility to give them the life they deserve. I don't know how people get up in the morning and look in the mirror & be okay with the parent they are. If you are a bad parent, in my eyes, you are a bad person. If you don't have a job, sit at home doing drugs all day while the other parent raises your kid, shame on you! If you don't have a job and make your family raise your kids, shame on you! If you put your previous life (before you had kids) friends, drugs and irresponsibility before your kids, shame on you! Don't fool yourself, everyone sees what your doing and everyone is judging you for it. You can't be a good friend, lover & family member but be a bad parent and expect everyone to overlook it. Once you're a parent, that's the only role that should matter and the one role your judged harshly on.
I know so many people I can relate this blog too. It's quite sad. I am not a perfect parent and don't pretend to be but I have had my children from the second they were born & that was almost 10 years ago. I have fallen down quite a few times but I have always put my kids well being before my own. Their happiness is my happiness. I see my kids every day, I tuck them in every night. I am a real parent. It's not always easy & some days I don't know how I'll make it through to the next but that was the choice I made the moment I decided to have sex and become a mother.
I am not impressed with people who don't take care of their kids. When you make someone else take on more of a burden raising your kid(s) is very selfish in my eyes. If you sit at home & your baby mom has to beg people on Facebook to watch your kid while they go to work & you do....whatever....selfish! If you make all the financial burden go on the other parent but spend all your money on food, drugs, and whatever else...selfish!
The second you decided to get pregnant or get someone pregnant your life should of been all about your kid(s). If you're having a bad day, week, month or even year...get over it! Your kid needs you. Build a structure around your kid so secure so they don't have to go through the struggles you have.
Another example: These parents that bring whoever from all walks of earth around their kids......I mean really? If they're doing drugs in your bathroom or getting popped for crimes left and right, do you really think they are people you should have around your innocent, impressionable children? I know I have had a lot of struggles with the two father's of my children but they are their dads, not just some Joe blow off the street. I don't bring people around my kids. This is THEIR house, THEIR sanctuary. It would be selfish of me to invade their world for my own selfish needs. Not to mention the impression it would leave on them if they saw a new guy come in and out all the time. I believe in true love, I believe in marriage and I won't show my kids trashy.
What has happened to our world? Where did everyone's ambition go? When did life become all about drugs and having fun? If you wanted to do drugs and have fun maybe you should of wore a condom. It's sad how many kids can't depend on their parents. Don't know when they'll see them again. Can't trust a word that comes out of their mouths. Its all just so sad.
Unfortunately the cycle of stuff like this normally travels from each generation to the next which I've never understood. If you hated your childhood, not having good parents, not knowing where your next meal would come from, your parents doing drugs.....why would you put your own child through the same thing? I don't understand.
Being a parent is hard and dealing with life on top of it is even harder but you chose this life. It is your responsibility, your only job to make sure your kid(s) are raised the right way, in their sanctuary, around good wholesome people, with parents who aren't on drugs. People are so full of shit if they think they're fooling anyone.
Another example: You don't take care of your kid(s) but want to play the "poor me" card. Poor you? How about your innocent kid(s) who you've left to basically raise themselves???? Your life is hard? Think about how they feel. You have warrants, fines etc that you expect other people to pay? Poor you....what about the kids you aren't supporting? Your boyfriend broke up with you and your going through friends every couple of weeks? What about the children you never see & let your family raise? Selfish people!!!!
There's nothing more infuriating to me!! I am not a perfect parent or person for that matter. I could lower my voice more around my kids, I could put down my phone & spend more quality time with them etc. Trust me I lay awake quite often thinking about where I fell short and how I can improve..... With my kids in the other room, in their beds.
My only wish is that people would just stop. Stop and think about what you're doing to your kid(s)? What life are you giving to your kid(s)? Loving them and posting pictures with them (when you actually see them) isn't enough. They need someone they can depend and count on. They need guidance and structure. They need someone to raise them and show them tough love so they'll grow up to be good, healthy rounded people.
One last thing before my rambling comes to an end. Kids need to know they are loved. Raise your kids and show them tough love when it's needed but don't swear st them and call them names because you don't want to deal with it. No one is perfect and we are all at fault for over stepping from time to time but if it's your main source of parenting, think about the mental damage it's doing to your kids. Kids only act the way you allow them too. Kids are supposed to test boundaries and drive you crazy and it's your job to be the adult and handle it in the right way.
Ramble over. (:
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