OMG! Sometimes juggling work, school, daycare and all other life responsibilities can be very overwhelming!!
I dropped my kids off to daycare at 7:10, was to work by 7:30, out of work by 4:30, to my kids at 4:47, to the Dr's for Alexia's ear infection by 5:00, back home (after hitting the pharmacy) by 7:00, dinner ate by 8:00, homework, 30 minutes of reading, spelling words, papers that needed to be signed done by 9:00, kids bathed and in bed by 9:30. Now I am finally sitting down, enjoying a nightcap and a short movie before I head to bed and do it all over again tomorrow. Lol
There was a moment while we were at the Dr's/Pharmacy where I truly thought I was going to lose it. Aydn was being a typical 2 year old and Austen (8) was doing everything in his power to push me over the edge. Nothing I was doing was making me win. I couldn't bribe them, threaten them, plead with them, ask them.....they were just determined to make sure those 2 hours were unbearable.
It made me think about all the other times I saw a very overwhelmed mother, juggling her daily responsibilities and her crazy kids, who at that moment, I was grateful weren't mine. We've all been there...we've seen the mother in the store with the screaming toddler and think to ourselves "It was my turn last time, it's yours this time." We send a sympathetic smile or stare on in horror, sometimes we even pass judgement. We judge her parenting, her children's behavior, and wonder why she can't control her rug rats.
I think us as mothers, women, sisters, we need to stop passing judgement and offer help. I was so close to losing my mind today and I prayed for all the judgmental people to stop judging and for just one of them to offer a little help, They could see I was tired, they could see my son's weren't cooperating, they saw me comforting my sick daughter, but none of them even offered to see if there was anything they could do. Nothing. They just watched on, judging, feeling sorry for me, and I'm sure judging my parenting, or even wondering why I had so many kids to begin with,
I'm not saying I think it's our jobs to help watch another woman's children or jump and be the hero to every woman with a stroller even. I am saying that when you see that mother, the one that has the screaming baby, uncontrollable toddler, and that look in her eye....the look that says "Any second I am either going to give up and run out of here, or fall to the ground crying" we offer help.
Raising children is the hardest job anyone will ever sign up for, and sometimes we need a little support, even if it's from a complete stranger. I remember the one time I was at the store and my kids were acting out and my newborn was screaming, this old lady walked over and offered to hold my baby while I tended to my other children. I normally wouldn't have said yes but I was desperate. I will never forget that woman, she didn't judge, she saw that look in my eyes and decided to help.
Also, we need to stop pretending to be the "perfect" mother, with our "perfect" children and actually accept help when we really need it. We are only human and sometimes even letting another woman hold your screaming infant can mean the world, and help so much.
I dropped my kids off to daycare at 7:10, was to work by 7:30, out of work by 4:30, to my kids at 4:47, to the Dr's for Alexia's ear infection by 5:00, back home (after hitting the pharmacy) by 7:00, dinner ate by 8:00, homework, 30 minutes of reading, spelling words, papers that needed to be signed done by 9:00, kids bathed and in bed by 9:30. Now I am finally sitting down, enjoying a nightcap and a short movie before I head to bed and do it all over again tomorrow. Lol
There was a moment while we were at the Dr's/Pharmacy where I truly thought I was going to lose it. Aydn was being a typical 2 year old and Austen (8) was doing everything in his power to push me over the edge. Nothing I was doing was making me win. I couldn't bribe them, threaten them, plead with them, ask them.....they were just determined to make sure those 2 hours were unbearable.
It made me think about all the other times I saw a very overwhelmed mother, juggling her daily responsibilities and her crazy kids, who at that moment, I was grateful weren't mine. We've all been there...we've seen the mother in the store with the screaming toddler and think to ourselves "It was my turn last time, it's yours this time." We send a sympathetic smile or stare on in horror, sometimes we even pass judgement. We judge her parenting, her children's behavior, and wonder why she can't control her rug rats.
I think us as mothers, women, sisters, we need to stop passing judgement and offer help. I was so close to losing my mind today and I prayed for all the judgmental people to stop judging and for just one of them to offer a little help, They could see I was tired, they could see my son's weren't cooperating, they saw me comforting my sick daughter, but none of them even offered to see if there was anything they could do. Nothing. They just watched on, judging, feeling sorry for me, and I'm sure judging my parenting, or even wondering why I had so many kids to begin with,
I'm not saying I think it's our jobs to help watch another woman's children or jump and be the hero to every woman with a stroller even. I am saying that when you see that mother, the one that has the screaming baby, uncontrollable toddler, and that look in her eye....the look that says "Any second I am either going to give up and run out of here, or fall to the ground crying" we offer help.
Raising children is the hardest job anyone will ever sign up for, and sometimes we need a little support, even if it's from a complete stranger. I remember the one time I was at the store and my kids were acting out and my newborn was screaming, this old lady walked over and offered to hold my baby while I tended to my other children. I normally wouldn't have said yes but I was desperate. I will never forget that woman, she didn't judge, she saw that look in my eyes and decided to help.
Also, we need to stop pretending to be the "perfect" mother, with our "perfect" children and actually accept help when we really need it. We are only human and sometimes even letting another woman hold your screaming infant can mean the world, and help so much.
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