I am not a professional at marriage. I can't tell you what will work in your marriage will be something that works in another. I don't think marriages are cookie cut and a one size fit all. I think marriage takes work. It takes both people trying at all times. It takes honoring the vows you made the day you got married, even long after the time has passed. It takes falling in love over and over again but always with the same person. It's about loving each other despite any differences. It's agreeing to disagree and realizing it's not always about someone being wrong and someone being right. It's about making that person your best friend and realizing that nothing is more important then that person.
Marriage is also realizing not everything is going to go smoothly, there will be compromise. Marriage is built on communication and respect. Respecting the feeling and opinions of your spouse and realizing they won't always think like you, and that's okay. You fell in love with that person because of their uniqueness. After some time passes though, real life sets in, it's remembering why you fell in love in the first place and why you loved each other so much, in such a way it lead to marriage.
I have been married for 7 months on the 5th. Losing his 14 year old daughter gave our marriage the biggest test we will ever face. We were only a month and a half in when she passed. We were just getting settled. We were just starting to become a family. It's been a rollercoaster. High high's and low low's. In the end he is still my best friend though. He is still the man my heart beats for. As I have previously wrote in prior posts, Victoria armed with me with all the knowledge I will ever need to know about her father. She made sure she left her father in good care. There have been a few times where it's been really hard, but who said marriage would be easy? A normal marriage that doesn't involve losing one's child is hard and takes work, but my marriage? I believe my marriage is even more special because we've faced the most tragic loss, and yet, we still remain together. I keep my promises, to my kids, my husband, and even a 14 year old who now guides me in spirit.
It's been almost 2 years since the first time he told me he was in love with me and asked me for a hug. This time last year, I was writing blogs about how much I loved him and how I wanted to settle down and get married. A year later and I am 7 months in being Mrs. Hillman. We have both said to each other multiple times that we wish we were each other's first loves. Met each other sooner, had our babies together, but things happen for a reason and we met and fell in love the way we did for a purpose. Wouldn't that be nice though? No ex's, no baby mama's/daddy's, no baggage. Just love. It's a nice thought but honestly we are who we are, he is the man I fell in love with, because of our past.
He and I, have survived so much which would have destroyed another marriage. We are extraordinary still. Our love connection is huge. We built our marriage on friendship and love.
He is the only man who can make me as mad as he does but he is also the only man who can walk into a room and just his presence is calming. He is the only man who can touch me and nothing else matters in the world.... Sometimes I want to hug him, other times wrap my hands around his neck, I guess it must be true love. :)
Marriage is also realizing not everything is going to go smoothly, there will be compromise. Marriage is built on communication and respect. Respecting the feeling and opinions of your spouse and realizing they won't always think like you, and that's okay. You fell in love with that person because of their uniqueness. After some time passes though, real life sets in, it's remembering why you fell in love in the first place and why you loved each other so much, in such a way it lead to marriage.
I have been married for 7 months on the 5th. Losing his 14 year old daughter gave our marriage the biggest test we will ever face. We were only a month and a half in when she passed. We were just getting settled. We were just starting to become a family. It's been a rollercoaster. High high's and low low's. In the end he is still my best friend though. He is still the man my heart beats for. As I have previously wrote in prior posts, Victoria armed with me with all the knowledge I will ever need to know about her father. She made sure she left her father in good care. There have been a few times where it's been really hard, but who said marriage would be easy? A normal marriage that doesn't involve losing one's child is hard and takes work, but my marriage? I believe my marriage is even more special because we've faced the most tragic loss, and yet, we still remain together. I keep my promises, to my kids, my husband, and even a 14 year old who now guides me in spirit.
It's been almost 2 years since the first time he told me he was in love with me and asked me for a hug. This time last year, I was writing blogs about how much I loved him and how I wanted to settle down and get married. A year later and I am 7 months in being Mrs. Hillman. We have both said to each other multiple times that we wish we were each other's first loves. Met each other sooner, had our babies together, but things happen for a reason and we met and fell in love the way we did for a purpose. Wouldn't that be nice though? No ex's, no baby mama's/daddy's, no baggage. Just love. It's a nice thought but honestly we are who we are, he is the man I fell in love with, because of our past.
He and I, have survived so much which would have destroyed another marriage. We are extraordinary still. Our love connection is huge. We built our marriage on friendship and love.
He is the only man who can make me as mad as he does but he is also the only man who can walk into a room and just his presence is calming. He is the only man who can touch me and nothing else matters in the world.... Sometimes I want to hug him, other times wrap my hands around his neck, I guess it must be true love. :)
At the movies in January.
Hawaii in January.
California in February.
Hawaii
Hawaii
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