I saw this quote today and decided this is what my blog should be about. "Never give up someone you can't go a day without thinking of." I think we all have that one person we can't go a day without thinking about them. Even if it isn't always positive they are always in our thoughts. Maybe it's a song, or a place, or food...but something always triggers a memory and which they are stuck in your head. So,what does it all mean?
As i said, from personal experience i have done it all. I once had a boyfriend where we spent every waking moment together. At school, at home, etc. We didn't have time where we spent with friends and unless forced too we never spent time with family either. We were each other's world. When he would leave my arms would ache because i wanted to feel him holding me again, i couldn't bare the thought of not being able to lay in his arms. At night after spending the whole day together we would secretly talk at night on the phone, he'd sneak through my bedroom window in the morning and lay with me before we went to school, He'd jump over the fence and room into my house when my parents would leave. Our bathroom windows faced each other and we'd sit for hours in our bathrooms talking to each other, to the point where i got grounded from even using that bathroom. It's not healthy, that was not healthy....
I also had another boyfriend where we had too much time apart. We would do our own things, spend time with our individual friends but he would take off too much. So many nights i would lay in bed, listening to noises hoping it was him coming through the door. I was go to sleep and wake up with tears in my eyes when i realized i was still alone in my bed the next morning. Sometimes i would even have to go out and search for him because he was gone for so long. Too much of either of these two is unhealthy. Relationships are all about the balance.
Neither of these two men have i ever been "obsessed" with....there was only one.
I was obsessed with this guy for 12 years. I would write how much i loved him all over my notebooks, paper and pants. I would stick "I love ...." in my window for him to see. I would write poetry over and over and over about him. My every thought was about him. I think a lot of it was my age and maturity. As i got older and became an adult the obsession faded my curiosity didn't. We ended up dating when i was 21. It was NOT healthy. He insisted on holding my hand when we were out in public, he punched two guys out, one for grabbing my butt and another for just looking out me. He insisted on coming out with me every time i went out with my girls. He was a very insecure person. Ultimately it became volatile and ended.
My point is "Never give up someone you can't go a day without thinking of." & "If you can't get someone off your mind, they're probably suppose to be there." both scream for "I NEED A LIFE OF MY OWN!"
A healthy relationship is about the balance, having the time together and also being able to do things on your own as individuals. A healthy relationship is being secure and stable enough to trust your other half when you are not together so you don't sit and obsess.
If you are no longer with this person and you still can't stop thinking about them, it's time to figure out the core problem and fix it. Obsessing is extremely unhealthy and destructive. Trust me, i know.....
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